For foster and adoptive parents, teachers, or anyone that works with children on a daily basis, there is a constant giving of energy, emotion, time, and patience. Although extremely rewarding, caring for kids in any capacity can be challenging, and without properly caring for yourself, you run the risk of burning out. Self-care can come in many forms, whether it be long-term, short-term, or immediate practices that you incorporate into your daily life. However you choose to incorporate self-care, keep in mind that the key to reaping the benefits of it is being consistent. Long-term self-care starts will goal setting. Set a goal for something that will give you something to look forward to on a hard day. Plan to go on a vacation in a year’s time, finish a project, or plan a party for the future. These goals will give excitement for things coming up and set a plan for intentional rest when it’s needed. These plans can include a smaller group of people, just you and your spouse, or a large group if that’s how you recharge!
Short-term self-care focuses more on a week’s plan. These are the self-care activities more commonly discussed, such as scheduling a nail appointment or massage, going to the gym, taking a bubble bath, or having dinner with your friends. A few of these outings placed on your calendar for the near future can rejuvenate you and fill your cup in the middle of a stressful week.
Immediate self-care is very important to practice, as it will be used for difficult situations directly in-the- moment. After the heat of an argument with a loved one or when your toddler’s meltdown is over, immediate self-care will keep you from holding anger throughout the day or feeling stuck. Try interventions like deep breathing, going for a walk in nature, calling a supportive friend/family member, or even praying. These are actions that can help you self-regulate on a daily basis and reset your mind to stay present.
Self-care is much more than just treating yourself. It is crucial to your overall wellbeing, and it will lead to healthier relationships between you and your children and the people you interact with regularly.In Psalm 46:10, God says, “Be still and know that I am God.” Take rest in knowing that the Lord is in control, and that He even commands us to “be still” and prioritize rest. Take responsibility to continually fill your cup as you pour into others around you everyday.